How many times have you looked back at something that you did and had regrets? Think back of when you were a kid and your parents were scolding you for doing something that you knew was wrong. They probably asked you the question, “Why did you do ………..? Did you answer like most kids would, “I don’t know.”
You would have more control of your destiny if you were true to your values and not swayed by peer pressure.
“It’s not hard to make decisions once you know what your values are".
Roy E. Disney
A dear friend of mine lost her daughter earlier this year in an accident caused by a drunk driver. The other driver’s future and the family of the young lady that lost her life are drastically changed. Deciding not to drink and drive may not be a decision that you ever have to make. There are other decisions that may seem minor in comparison, but still affect your destiny.
I decided early in my career to put work in front of family. I moved all over the
country without asking my spouse what she wanted. I did not take time off from work when my kids were born. I have regrets. You cannot go back in time to change the decisions that you made. The sum of the decisions that you make in your life “is” your destiny. I am now single after two marriages partially due to my priorities in
my 20s and 30s.
We have the opportunity to control our destiny. I had thought about writing a book for over 20 years. It was always going to be a book on leadership. I started and stopped the process so many times. In the fall of 2010, I decided to put the possible future of being an author in God’s hands. While I was lying in bed and thinking about starting to write again, I started praying. I asked God to let me know if I should continue this journey or just let it go as just a dream and get back to reality.
I woke up at about 1 am with a book title in my mind. I knew immediately that I need to incorporate my religious faith to my approach to leadership training. I always
believed in the traits of a strong leader, but did not tie them in with my faith. Once I put this goal into God’s hands, everything about the book, Faith Guided Leadership, fell into place. It was published in September 2011.
That decision while lying in bed to pray about the decision to continue writing is changing my destiny. I am currently working on my next book. I do not know where this will lead me in life, but I know that God is there as my guide. Think about some of the decisions that you make every day. Are you making decisions based on
your personal values or based on peer pressure?